Ok...just yesterday in the shower

...I was talking to my girlfriend... while she was doing her hair at the sink... About my Grandpa John...
About how I was still mad at him for yankin my college funds out from under me when I was going to that expensive West Coast photography school. How that was really stupid on my part to still let that effect me 14 years later and that I should really let it go... cause I figure from his perspective he still knows he did the right thing cause, if I was gonna make a good living from photography then I would have found a way to do it, even with out his financial help - and I didn't, so I must be a lazy little ingrate that ripped him off... but from my whinny little perspective he somehow owed me that money - so that I could go to the expensive art school... bla bla bla
...Then later I was getting the mail...
A stone cold glaze came over me as my glance happened to peruse the return address of a letter addressed to me...
So here I stand with a letter that has a return address from John and Mildred ...
I was frozen... For 36 years of my life this return address has meant a card with a letter (and a check on birthdays and Christmas) from my grandma. Not always expected, not always needed - but always there... and always made me feel good. On almost no occasion, except the letter that cut off my college funding, can I remember Grandpa signing or saying much of anything to me in these letters. Just grandma, giving me the weather, what they had been doing that day (Garage sales and going out to lunch) and how much she hoped I was happy (where ever I was at the time) and that she was thinking of me and loved me.
These few scrawled ink stains always reminded me of her incredibly warm and smooth hand, gently rubbing my back, up under my shirt as she contently listened to my every childlike word, sprawled across her lap. The way she would look at me as if I were the most precious thing alive. With her smiling face that would seem to dissolve any woe I had at the time and let me know with only that glance
that everything was gonna be all right.

 

...and here I am today...
with a letter in my hand... with a return
address from John and Mildred ...

 

I still have the letter somewhere - the one from my Grandpa - the one from all those years ago. I've read it from time to time, with as much spite as I was feeling at the time. That this avaricious churl would take from me, what was, in my princess laden mind, mine. The phrases that have echoed in my recesses
"...not gonna throw good money after bad..."
"...Never be able to pay it back..."
"...cost as much as a doctor's degree and not worth it just to learn photography..."
I was devastated, as my inexperience with finances did not allow me to understand anything; only that I was being taken away from the one thing that I loved...
... So here I stand with a letter that has a return address from John and Mildred
I open the letter and the card and the check falls out. The face of the card has a little boy comfortably asleep with covers and a pillow on a slice of the moon over a sleepy little cabin in the woods covered with snow. There is smoke coming out of the chimney and the yellow glow from the windows seem to invite one to ultimate calm.
I am reminded of a recent email that my sister sent me, having seen my grandpa since grams death... she said she had never put much stock in someone dying of a broken heart... until she sees him now... having aged many years in the few short months since her death.
The card in my hand says, Christmas Wishes For A Special Grandson... may all your Christmas dreams come true... and upon opening it up says, Merry Christmas Grandson With love... and it's signed Grandpa
I know that grandma picked this card out... she probably bought it at an after Christmas sale... Maybe this year, maybe any time in the last 10 years... but I know she bought it and now he is sending out the cards - a cruel, lonely and vicious reality that he faces everyday... after they did it together for 60 years.
On the left hand side of the card he has taken a few minutes to write:
Hi Alan
Hope you have a good Christmas. Look forward to having the girls down here for Xmas.
I am gettin along OK. Keep busy in the daytime, but have some long lonesome nights. I sure miss grandma. Sure glad you sent her that card from Prague - She kept it where she could see it till she died.
love,
Grandpa

 

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